Sonntag, 19. Juni 2011

"The Myth of the Super Dad"


First of all we should try to define what a superdad actually is: Is it a man who takes care about his children all the time, who does everything for them, who loves them and cares about them as much as a loving mum? Society thinks that is how a superdad should be! While pregnancy he sould already start talking to the baby, the superdad is suposed to stay at home and take care about his pregnant wife, because of the baby. After birth he is there for the child twentie-for seven. He is going for a walk with the baby and playing with it and feeding it, changing napies and bringing it to bed. In the night HE is getting up and waiting and singing till the baby is back to sleep.



Well....you wish!!!

There are some men who pretent doing that: These are called Smug Dads. They go for a walk with the baby and feed it infront of other dads and mums and play with it and talk and report about who bussy the night was after getting up 4 times and bringing the baby back to sleep. But actually they're just showing off. They never do anythink like that at home. At night they rather go out with their mates and drink instead of looking for the baby or at least help the mum to bade it and feed it. Of course you sould be happy and proud of being a dad but don't just show off and pretending being a dad, BE A REAL DAD!! Help the mum of your child not just when other people are around.



There is also a nother man called 'the new man'. He always looks fabulous and also gets up in the middle of the night and looks after the crying baby. Actually this man is perfect. He looks amazing by wearing stuff from Armani, Calvin Kleind or Gucci. He talks about his feelings with his girlfriend and loves to spend time with the kids. But also this man (and we all know that) doesn't exist. It is just a illusion.



So we still didn't clarify the question about what a real superdad is.
Actually superdads just love their children unconditionally. They love them when they come home with good marks, with bad marks. When they finish school with an excellent certification and when they are drunk and the police had to bring them home, the superdad still loves his children. I think superdads should give their children freedom. Of course parents want to take care about them, they want to protect them and sometimes they have to be stric and forbidd them things but is this really necessary? I think children should learn by doing things, trying out new stuff, make own experiences. So the superdad is giving the children love and freedom. These two things are part of the secret of how to be a super dad.

This might also be the solution for dads who have to work so much and never actually have time for their children. When they have to work 60h or 48h a week the usually need firstly time for themselves. They are stressed and annoyed by the children. That is the worst thing you can ever do. Shure when the kids are younger the wanna spend time with their dads. And when the dads work a lot and get stressed

it is going to get a disturbed relationship between dad and child. To avoid that more and more dads get off work and take paided holidays. The can spend time with their children while they are young and they can support the mum. There are also some of this organizations which support dads of retarded kids to spend more time with them.

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