Prattle of the Sexes - Do Men and Women speak the same language???

Men never listen and women never get the point. That is the well-known cliché about men and women. When you go in a café and watch men and women having conversations, when you go to school and watch how boys and girls are talking can you actually make a differnece???

The difference is not ment to be in grammar or language, it is the way men and women express themselves. Fact is that women like to gossip. But men also like doing that. We usually say men avoid talking about feelings instead of women who LOVE sharing problems with others. But why is that?? Well...men think showing emotions or talkin about feelings could show how vulnerable they actually are. They are humans just as women are so they all have feelings. But men have the fear by showing them or talking about them others (especially other men) would think they're softies and pussies. Men need time to open themselves to others.
Wome in this case are more uncomlicated. They talk about their problems to everyone.
Because of the fact that most of the men avoid conversations about feelings and women find it hard to express themselves and being understood, communication problems come up.
An example is the meta-message:

Imagine a husband and his wife sitting on the couch and watching TV. Suddenly the woman asks her husband: "Why didn't you ask me how my day was?" and the man answers: "Ive something would have happened you would have told me!"
To explain the situation:
The woman is fed up because the man didn't ask her about her day, it is the thing that he did not talk to her, not the meaning of how her day was.
The men doesn't understand and is confused, he would have talked to her when she wanted to, but she didn't tell him. So he just understood the meta-message in a different way. That is the main problem of communication problems.

To avoid these the women should just talk. They should talk to their husbands and not expecting them to start a conversation all the time.

Also it is proofed, that women and men differ in having conversations. The women usually sit close together and are really into each other. They have lot of eye contact and talk about problems and emotions. They agree a lot with the other person to bond the relationship and to get to know each other better and to show the other one that they can trust each other.

Men instead sit comfortable, lean back and rather talk about information than listen and giving advices to solute problems.
That explains why most of the men prefer informative and structured talking and thinking and women like emotional based and more complicated talking.

Even if there are some differences in how men and women talk I think it is not a problem of gender, it is the matter of what kind of persons are talking to each other.
There are men who can talk with women for hours and talk about problems and feelings while there are women how prefer having conversations with men because they understand them.
Fact is that the way we express or we have conversations might differ but I think it depends on the person you are talking to, this person has to understand you and hast to speak the same language as you do - not matter male or female!